Between friends and lovers, boyfriend and girlfriend; dating? In reality what is it that is the defining characteristic of these relationships?
I think it's time to decide what the rules are, and if there should be any rules. I'm tired to trying to figure this out on my own...
Why don't you just tell me?
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I've always felt a relationship is defined by the people involved, independantly of the label they choose for public consumption. "Married" can mean you only have sex with one partner, or that you only have children with that partner. a boy/girlfriend isn't necessarily a sexual relationship, though these days most people seem to assume it is. And friend can be 'friends with benefits'.
So what does introducing someone as your "boyfriend/significant other/etc." mean? It means that's how you want the person your introducing them to to view them, it means nothing to your bf/so/etc.
My $0.02.
Your .02 are a COP OUT! Just give me the answer...what does it MEAN!??!
I honestly believe that the title of your significant other doesn't define the relationship.
Think of it this way. Let's say you do find the/a 'right' guy/girl. You have a good year or two of dating, and you get engaged. A year or so later, you get married. From the perspective of what the two of you do with each other, and how you feel about each other, what is going to CHANGE on your wedding day? Undoubtably you slowly grow closer to that person as the relationship develops, but being married doesn't necessarily mean things suddenly change.
I got married to formalize how I felt about someone, not to change the relationship I had with her.
I understand the desire to call someone your boyfriend. For me, it always fele like then, I would truely be able to believe that he liked me.
But think about it: No one has ever changed our title before I actually believed that. I had it backwards all along.
If Matt started introducing you as his girlfriend but still acted the same way. If he still did things that made you so unsure of yourself all the time...what would be the difference? Only the title.
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