So last night one of the guys I've been dating told me that he has HPV. We haven't gotten any where near having sex; but it was sort of disturbing to hear. For the first time in my life I felt happy that I have always been extremely comfortable talking about sex, STD's and making sure that the people I engage with are not only clean, but telling the truth about such a status.
Now I'm in the awkward position of deciding whether or not I even want to attempt to engage with a man who has an STD...? HPV is a tricky one. It's not curable, condoms have not been proven as a method of protection; and then, of course, there is the new HPV vaccine (which takes 6 months to get).
My father and I were once discussing Indecent Proposal. That movie where a millionaire offers money to a couple if he can sleep with the wife. We discussed what I would do in that situation. My dad would totally go for it. The only thing I could think of was "has he been tested for STD's" My dad thought that this response was not only odd, but oddly sad. That the only thing I was really concerned with was the fact that my generation is dealing with a whole new level of STD's that his generation didn't even consider....
Apparently my nervous existence isn't always a bad thing...unfortunatley it might have turned out to be one of the best questions I've ever asked.
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First, I think that it is a really good thing that you're comfortable talking about sex. I'm sure that it will continue to benefit you in the future.
I remember seeing a trailer for Boogie Nights, hearing the line about "when sex was safe" and thinking, "Gee, I wonder what that was like?"
Generally, though, I worry about pregnancy first, relationship impact second, and STDs third. Of course, I've always been more high-risk than anyone I might have sex with, which undoubtably skews my priorities.
where's the part about sti's? i want some turbo-whinin, all-wheel-drive, ludicrous-spoilered action...
Will- WHAT? STI's in this case meant sexually transmitted infection... turbo what?
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"the largest sti community on the internet"
not to be confused with:
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